Real Wedding | Natasha + Trevor

Tell us a little about yourselves!

We met on the basketball court at work when our team played against one another - both basketball players, Trevor a designer, tall, understated and stern in demeanor, Natasha also tall, gregarious, and earnestly flirtatious. There were surely sparks but neither of us acted on them - we treated each other very formally like work colleagues, we ate lunch together but only in groups of 5 or more people, and we did not flirt with each other. Instead we spoke about serious topics like religion and photography. Natasha asked a friend to teach her photography so that she could have an excuse to spend time with Trevor. Eventually being friends led to spending a lot of time together, and Natasha finally got Trevor to show her he was interested in being more than friends - with a kiss! Only 3 months after the first kiss, we went to Thailand together and then on a romantic work-related trip to Tokyo and Seoul. It was the start of our adventures around the world.

Why did you decide to get married where you did?

Natasha spent her summers going to St Maximin to visit her grandparents and enjoy the magic of Provence. It's a place that maintains the spirit of her now passed grandmother, Nora: serendipity, mischief, love, family, adventure and exploration, independence, inconvenience, warmth. Trevor and Natasha later built nice memories there so it will be special to share with all of our friends.

How many guests did you have?

130 guests.

What was your budget?

60-75k EUR.

Tell us about your outfits.

Trevor wore a sand linen suit with a tie that matched the color of Natasha's dress; all were from Liberty London. He wore black derbys from AMI. Natasha wore a Marie Antoinette inspired, voluminous gown from Millia London. Both of our outfits were meant to both sit seamlessly within the colors of the Provençal countryside while distinctively bringing their personalities to life - Trevor understated, Natasha, stated. The groomsmen followed suit behind Trevor and wore a mélange of cream, beige and gray suits. The bridespeople followed Natasha in bright white and neutral couture gowns and suits, sprinkled with sheer, beaded and metallic accents. It was a posse 32 people strong, led not by the bride, but in fact, but the father of the bride, who wore a white, Willy Wonka inspired tailcoat with top hat, a cane with a large golden duck's head, followed by not one, not two, but three outfit changes throughout the day.

What was the most important aspect for you, in terms of planning your wedding?

Natasha had been passively planning the wedding years before we met - there were pages of Instagram and Pinterest content waiting to be put to action. Depending which of us you ask, the wedding planning while in business school, where real life seems to pause momentarily, was like an extended day at the fairgrounds: at all times there were low levels of excitement and anticipation about what great ideas might come to the table and which of the many already on the table might get locked in with a deposit.

For Natasha, an experiential marketer and planner at heart, the most important aspect of the wedding would be the ways in which people could leave the event with delight, love of love, love of connection and optimism. For Trevor, the wedding brought, along with the good parts, anxiety around family, super expectations of perfection as a designer, and the expected existentialism of big life milestones.

The result was intention and enjoyment behind every step. Be it during the day-long workshop in Marseille with White Blossom where the couple came up with the idea of having Poppeeo Tatto provide free, real and magical tattoos the day before the wedding, or in the trenches when Natasha and her father were told the champagne they had selected would no longer be available, the planning process start to finish was one big, creative excuse to call friends and build something wondrous together. And every vendor matched the whimsical positivity in their craft and their genuine smiles. Everyone- us included - was just happy to be there.

Were there any elements that were important for you to incorporate?

Most important for us was that the whole was greater than the sum of its parts - either of us or the wedding party alone looked stunning, but together, we looked fierce, like a warrior clan fighting for glamour. Natasha gifted Trevor a single earring for him to wear, one from a jewler in Hackney that mimicked Natasha's but wasn't quite the same. Trevor's like Natasha's was a white gold hoop with a cloudy white ball hanging from it, Natasha's made of pearl, Trevor's made of moonstone.

Any tips for couples getting married?

Your wedding, if you have the luxury of planning it for you (and not for a micromanaging parent or inlaw...), may be the only free pass you ever get to bring all of your people - your witness from all walks of your lives—into one place. You have a chance to all witness the same moment, imprint the same memories, laugh at the same jokes, and then the moment is all gone. You go about your life continuing these relationships in a 1:1 relationship of course, but your best ever, most ideal guest list will happen that once and likely never again. It is not a moment to stress about what isn't happening or didn't happen or could have happened; turn off that part of your brain and choose acceptance and joy. This is a series of moments to smile endlessly, pinching yourself about what is happening and about just how happy you are to be happy there.

Are there any vendors that you would like to tell us a little more about?

Marrou Traiteur just stole the show during the planning - they were an exceptionally professional partner and leader in pulling together the best food, the best table scape, the best wine and the best service. They made everything and anything possible, and never for an extra fee. The starters, especially the assorted foie gras table, nearly upstaged the bride, and the end of the meal, which is usually forgotten in weddings—the cheese assortment and the dessert buffet - were somehow most guest's favorite part of the culinary experience. They are the best at what they do and there was no doubt about it.

Our photographer/videographers, a couple, Alchemia, felt like one of us- I have no idea how we got so lucky to find not only artists that captured the emotions we felt and hoped to remember forever, but also a couple we could have been long-time friends with. Olivia's emotionally invested planning and Morgan's gentle spirit, long hair and pierced ears, paralleled Natasha, the creative planner and Trevor the sweetness architect. In the lead up they asked the right questions to shine the light on the parts of our souls that would be most present on wedding day. On the day-of, they were as cool and brilliant as the guests. When all was said and done, the images - everyone messaged to agree - were immaculate, perfectly imperfect, warm, soft, chic, editorial and precious.

White Blossom Decor demonstrated the importance of having a "yes woman" as a decorating partner-in-crime. No idea I proposed was impossible; further to this, any potential issues became non-issues because Clémence, the planner, knew how to find a creative, beautiful solution. Her design process was a joy to be a part of, she listened well and provided only good options, and her taste was flawless and contextually pristine.